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captainlezbian@lemmy.world 5 days agoCounterexample. Over the pandemic I met some people as a d&d group. Two years later we all met up for a vacation together and had a blast (ok one woman didn’t vibe great but the rest did). This past year at one’s wedding we met each others’ partners and everyone had an amazing time. In fact we had such a good time that when my wife and I were deciding what blue city to flee our red state to we picked the home city of one of those friends, and we’re going to crash with her for a little while while we look for an apartment. In addition to being closer to her, the whole friend group will be on the west coast making trips together easier, which we’re all excited for
BlessedDog@lemmy.world 5 days ago
Thats good, that makes me feel a bit easier; hearing success stories. I’m still just a teen who’s never traveled outside of countries where I know I have a safety net, so this is a bit stressful.
Regarding the part about fleeing your state, I am not american, but I hope you guys find a safe environment, and I hope you work through the troubles brewing in your country right now.
captainlezbian@lemmy.world 5 days ago
Yeah its gonna be stressful and I can’t tell you it will go well, but it might. Adventures like this are good for people your age as well. Having a plan for if it goes poorly is a good idea. Video calling beforehand is generally wise because it can guarantee you aren’t being catfished and that you vibe in real time.
Go in expecting a good time and prepared to show a good time. And while it sucks if irl you don’t get along it’s ok. There’s a saying in America that bad times make for good stories. Your teenage and young adult years are for adventures and building experience. It’s scary and exciting and no matter how it goes you’ll probably be glad you did it when you’re older.
My story isn’t even the only great time I’ve had with internet friends. If I’m near anyone I know these days I’ll at least try to swing by for a meal.
So what’s most likely to happen? Probably a generally good time. Nothing life changing in any direction though your age is one in which life is quite malleable and it’s downright common to have life-changing experiences at that age. But it should be fun, and you’ll likely stay friends. It’s quite likely the friendship will be different afterwards but not worse, just closer and informed by how it felt to be in the same space. Inside jokes are likely to happen also.
Thanks, I’m sad it’s needed but also excited and I choose to maintain hope that good will win both here and abroad.
Best of luck, have fun on your trip
BlessedDog@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Thanks for the kind words!
Fortunately we clicked instantly and everything is wonderful. I’m just chilling with her dad right now, waiting for her to come back home lol.
I felt alienated first, since this is the first time I’m in a country thats unfamiliar, where I dont know directions or landmarks. Weird feeling.
captainlezbian@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Wonderful! And savor that weird feeling, it’s adventure and you might just get hooked on it