Every ounce of love and time and attention they pay you from the moment you make the decision to leave until you find the gumption to do it is a waste for them. The most respectful thing you can do is not waste the precious and finite moments of their life.

since i know i am going to leave them from the get go, precious and finite moments of my life is also wasted? what do you mean by waste? why is this a waste? for me this would be something i can fondly remember before i die.

if you split with your wife after 2 kids, are your kids waste?

that you won’t be the person to love them.

what do you mean? i will always love them.

If you stay do it because it’s what you want

not relevant but how can i answer this? do i like her or do i like how she likes me?

Choosing to leave someone you love is not a popular opinion

i have to do it

You will find that what was out there wasn’t worth what you gave up, that this was love, and you will wish you had it back

that would suck

trick them into hating you.

how can someone do that?