if I question why I get yelled at.

Yelling is bad behaviour. This person’s bad behaviour, not your’s.

One idea:

Tell them in your calmest voice (!) that the one who yells is wrong. Always. Didn’t they know that? Because, if he were right, he would not need to yell.

This isn’t the most solid logic, but then it’s better to argue about the yelling and not about your 5 minutes.