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Shortstack@reddthat.com 2 months ago
Yeah that relationship dynamic doesn’t work.
The gamer side of the relationship sat around all day while I kept up the house and paid the bills and did things like go outside for fun.
latenightnoir@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Not trying to deny your reality, just saying that it’s rather a problem with too little cooperation and compromise than a problem with divergent dynamics. This is speaking from personal experience.
I’m more of a homebody and I actually seek out partners who are more outgoing and social precisely because I can compromise with that and said compromise leads to a relatively organic way of incorporating more social contexts in my life (organic as in not requiring me to go out of my way to get them). And, from what I’ve seen, the other side of the compromise - partaking in more shared activities while cloistered - seems to be well received. But, of course, this implies possessing the willingness to cooperate and compromise (within reason), which are the two most important requirements of a functional and healthy relationship.
In short, my experience is that the grand majority (say 90%) of my previous relationships have failed at a collaborative level, with the outliers being due to other major and unrelated factors (past traumas, familial troubles, poor timing, etc.).