We went by the four Fs: French, feel, finger, fuck. Fellatio would fit right in, but we didn’t really use it and counted that as base 3.5.

Which is why I didn’t initially realize I lost my virginity to a girl, because we just went to 3.5. I was talking to someone about it and they literally looked at me and were like “so gold star lesbians are just all virgins?” and I realized I was being an idiot.