Dude, there is always something else going on.

Relationships are not 1-dimension concepts formed on appearances. They are complex, with many facets and details that go into it.

Have you ever seen a couple and wondered “why is someone so hot with someone that ugly?” That’s because it’s not built in looks alone. Maybe he’s confident, or rich, or a good listener, or he’s good with kids, or any of a thousand other good qualities. Realistically it’s a combination of them all, because these don’t exist in isolation. And it applies in both directions. What changes are the criteria (e g. Men aren’t expected to have perfect skin, women aren’t expected to be confident. Generally)