Elevator7009

@Elevator7009@kbin.cafe

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What's the difference between asking someone title or someone's pronouns ?⁩ ⁨⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  It might also just be that the person asking you just always asks.

  did I pass and you just ask everyone this because not everyone conforms to the gender binary?”
  … I already brought up that possibility :(

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What's the difference between asking someone title or someone's pronouns ?⁩ ⁨⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Not conservative.

  I’ve gotten very very used to being asked for titles on forms and the like. I’ve gotten used to respecting other peoples’ pronouns.

  I have not gotten used to being asked for my own, and I don’t like it.

  I understand that you can look just like me while having a gender identity that does not match my own—some men like to present in a feminine manner sometimes while still being men, and some people are non-binary, third gender, agender, etc. but might still dress in a very feminine way for whatever reason. To cover all your bases, ask pronouns, because guessing “she/her” at a feminine presentation in a body with a feminine shape won’t always be right. If you want to maximize your chances of being correct, you need to ask.

  But whenever I’m asked, I also wonder if I’ve presented in a way that signals anything other than “woman” (which frequently but does not always line up with feminine presentations from feminine bodies). Did I just totally fail at presenting the way I want to and if forced to assume you’d guess I’m third gender, or are you being inclusive and considering that people who present like me aren’t always women? It’s the privileged, cis-woman version of “did you have to ask because I failed hard at passing, or do you just ask everyone this?”

  I also understand it is probably for the benefit of most people to ask, so I let it go. After I ask if they asked pronouns because they honestly thought it’s super likely I don’t use she/her in which case oh god what do I change so I can make the assumption be that I use she/her, or if it’s just them trying to be inclusive and cover all bases which is good and respectable.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why is everyone so giddy about the flooding thay happened at burning man?⁩ ⁨⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I’ve never liked that at all.

  I’m not exactly rich, but compared to some starving people in third-world countries yes I am.

  I hate to think that because of that, I must be stupid and deserve every bad thing that happened to me. After all, I’m just an overprivileged first-worlder, therefore I purposely tried to step on everyone to get my way. Because you suffered in ways that I never have, I must suffer like that and you get to laugh at the “rich person” flailing and generally being miserable.

  This is why I stick to /sub. To avoid this kind of kbin post. And I somehow find these posts anyway (didn’t even seek out stuff outside of /sub, not sure how I landed here, going to find out how it happened so it won’t happen again) and get angry.

  Lovely outrage bait. Never change, internet.