ArseAssassin
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- Comment on What’s the actual reason neurodivergent people are sometimes discriminated against or bullied? 2 days ago:
For the most part, when you participate in any social interaction, people will have ready-made roles laid out for all the participants. These roles consist of an unspoken list of dos and don’ts that are absorbed through cultural osmosis to the point that they become social norms. This is all quite subconscious, and when questioned about it, most of us will either reject that they’re engaged in this or answer something vague to make the question go away.
When someone shows up that doesn’t quite seem to catch on to the game, many people tend to get uncomfortable. If there’s someone who isn’t acting their part, they’re no longer sure what to do themselves. They feel threatened and shitty behavior ensues to enforce the status quo. So yes, mostly people are performing a role in order to fit in, even if they don’t realize they’re doing it.
On the plus side, when you meet someone who doesn’t expect you to perform a role to meet their demands, it’s pretty freakin’ sweet.
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- Comment on If suffering is good because it gives life meaning, wouldn't it follow that hurting people is good? 4 weeks ago:
That’s a good question. I’ve never studied the topic, but your answer sounds reasonable. I did read over some relevant bits from Wikipedia
While the motivations for self harm vary, the most commonly endorsed reason for self harm given by adolescents is to get relief from a terrible state of mind.
Many people who self-harm state that it allows them to “go away” or dissociate, separating the mind from feelings that are causing anguish. This may be achieved by tricking the mind into believing that the present suffering being felt is caused by the self-harm instead of the issues they were facing previously: the physical pain therefore acts as a distraction from the original emotional pain.
Alternatively, self-harm may be a means of feeling something, even if the sensation is unpleasant and painful. Those who self-harm sometimes describe feelings of emptiness or numbness (anhedonia), and physical pain may be a relief from these feelings.
Those who engage in self-harm face the contradictory reality of harming themselves while at the same time obtaining relief from this act. It may even be hard for some to actually initiate cutting, but they often do because they know the relief that will follow. For some self-harmers this relief is primarily psychological while for others this feeling of relief comes from the beta endorphins released in the brain.[93][medical citation needed] Endorphins are endogenous opioids that are released in response to physical injury, acting as natural painkillers and inducing pleasant feelings, and in response to self-harm would act to reduce tension and emotional distress.
- Comment on If suffering is good because it gives life meaning, wouldn't it follow that hurting people is good? 4 weeks ago:
Can I get a source on that?
- Comment on If suffering is good because it gives life meaning, wouldn't it follow that hurting people is good? 4 weeks ago:
Post-traumatic growth is a thing. No need to cause more suffering, it’s locally available and plentiful in most parts of the world.
- Comment on If suffering is good because it gives life meaning, wouldn't it follow that hurting people is good? 4 weeks ago:
It’s bullshit, of course. It was made up as an excuse for treating people badly and (surprise!) making more money that way.
Must be why Mother Theresa was so rich.
- Comment on If suffering is good because it gives life meaning, wouldn't it follow that hurting people is good? 4 weeks ago:
The Second Arrow parable does a pretty good job.
You are walking in the woods and suddenly you get struck by an arrow (someone fires an arrow at you) and it hits your arm and it really, really hurts - it’s very painful and you feel that physical pain in your arm, and it’s bleeding. And then immediately your mind starts to think - "Oh my god, what’s gonna happen? What if I bleed to death? What if this is infected and I can’t walk back properly? Or I lose energy and I can’t get back to my family? What’s gonna happen to my family? What’s gonna be happening to my husband / my wife / my children? What’s gonna happen to me or what’s going to happen to their future, how will they be doing?”
The Buddha describes the first arrow as the physical pain and the second arrow is what your mind does - it starts thinking about the worst scenario that can happen. And he says “be warned of the second arrow.”
The first arrow represents the pain - the actual physical pain, and the second arrow represents what you call suffering. So we distinguish between pain and suffering.
