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- Comment on What should I do if my girlfriend doesn’t listen? 2 days ago:
I’m glad if any of that was helpful. Good luck, have fun, don’t die!
- Comment on What should I do if my girlfriend doesn’t listen? 2 days ago:
There’s a lot of negativity in this thread that I don’t think is entirely warrented. It sounds like you’re both still very young and you haven’t been dating for more than a few months. It’s alright to just have a fun, shallow relationship for a while and then move on, especially at your age. That doesn’t make you a terrible person.
If you want your relationship to last beyond the first few months, though, when you’re both still in love, you’ll have to develop some sort of emotional connection beyond just fancying eachother.
The way I see it you have two options. The first is you enjoy the relationship for as long as you do. You get your emotional support somewhere else. When the initial attraction wears of you break up.
But if you want a serious long-term relationship, you’ll have to address this issue. You could try telling her how you feel the next time she changes the subject. Tell her you need to work through these negative emotions, and it’d be nice if she tried to listen and/or comfort you.
Or perhaps next time she’s feeling insecure and needs to be told she’s not stupid and ugly, you change the subject and show her some funny videos. See how she likes it! This is arguably a bit passive aggressive and immature, but it does sound like empathy isn’t her strongest point. It might help her understand if she experiences things from your point of view. Depending on how she responds, you could then address the matter in a more direct fashion.
- Comment on What should I do if my girlfriend doesn’t listen? 3 days ago:
Does she avoid all negative emotions like that or just yours? Because if she does, those negative emotions are going to catch up with her in a major way eventually.
- Comment on Time of death: 1:19 am October 18 2 weeks ago:
And when they opened their computer… the memory was soldered onto the motherboard! 🎃
- Comment on Anons text isn't green but that's far from the worst. 2 weeks ago:
- Comment on Lemmy users 2 weeks ago:
I’ll have you know that I’m… technically… not a virgin, thankyouverymuch!
- Comment on Amid Starlink crisis, Finnish tech giants announce plan to help Ukraine build its own sovereign satellite system 2 weeks ago:
Yeah, in the mean time they should probably copy Russia’s homework and set up their own mesh network.
- Comment on Amazon Alexa won't stop saying 'lalala' and users are creeped out 4 weeks ago:
Perhaps some legend replaced all the training data with Trolololo?
- Comment on Despair.jpeg 5 weeks ago:
Tits are the new beans!
- Comment on Me Browsing Lemmy Today 5 weeks ago:
I think lemmynsfw.com is no longer active. Browsing my all feed shows some adult content from lemmynsfw.app.
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- Comment on EU citizens on here, Ross Scott is warning about a draconian law in the European Unio. 5 weeks ago:
Ok, so let’s say you’re a minor and I get a hold of your hash. Now I’m going to run it through the service every day, whether you log in or not. The day you turn 18 I’m going to know your date of birth.
- Comment on EU citizens on here, Ross Scott is warning about a draconian law in the European Unio. 5 weeks ago:
Online ID should only be legally mandated in cases where KYC (know your customer) laws exist, like financial services.
If you want to protect children, make them use devices that are locked down and block adult content. Online service providers should at most be required to mark such content with metadata.
- Comment on You're all friends to me 1 month ago:
- Comment on Tech and consent - Mozilla edition 1 month ago:
Firefox recently gave me a similarly shitty pop-up ad for their vpn:
- Comment on Episode Discussion | Star Trek: Strange New Worlds | 4x02 "Griffin Incident" 3 months ago:
I suppose it may also be part of this season’s overarching storyline. Perhaps it’ll be revealed in a later episode.
- Comment on Episode Discussion | Star Trek: Strange New Worlds | 4x02 "Griffin Incident" 3 months ago:
I’m a little disappointed whatever was going on wasn’t explained with some kind of technobabble at the end. That doesn’t seem very Star Trekkie to me.
- Comment on *laughs in Dutch* 3 months ago:
Have you tried clicking the little speaker icon after the phonetic notation on Wikipedia?
- Comment on *laughs in Dutch* 3 months ago:
Actually, the way his name is pronounced in Dutch sounds like you’re about to spit out something that was stuck in the back of your throat.
- Comment on Correct 5 months ago:
And when only one of you nuts it’s an xorgasm.
- Comment on Inside you there are 2 cinephiles 5 months ago:
- Comment on Why do I constantly see testostorone being put into evreything from pills to candy bars but its illegal for trans men to get it? 5 months ago:
Probably because those products don’t actually boost your testosterone.
- Comment on Can travel anywhere in late June, not sure where. Anecdotes/advice? 5 months ago:
I think you should give Turkey some serious consideration. If I were your mom, I imagine I’d absolutely love it if you shared your passion for the local history with me.
I think Turkey should have wonderful beaches, but from there you could also travel to Albania, Greece or Italy quite easily. If those are too hot, you could go to Poland or Lithuania, Latvia or Estonia. I haven’t been myself, but I hear Eastern Europe has beautiful old cities and nature. Those countries are also pretty cheap!
Depending on how much you want to travel and whether you like trains you could get an [Eurail ticket] (www.eurail.com/en) for one or more countries. If you’re younger than 28 you’ll get a nice discount. There should also plenty of affordable flights.
- Comment on [deleted] 6 months ago:
So apparently telling your friend or acquaintance you don’t share their particular sense of humour is worse?
I guess I shouldn’t overthink a shitpost, but is it really such a social faux pas to tell someone your tastes are different from theirs? I just wonder if this is a cultural thing that I’m too Dutch to get, or of it’s more of a I’m-too-socially-awkward-to-have-an-opinion-of-my-own kind of thing?
- Comment on The way this egg peels in infuriating 7 months ago:
My German is not very good, but I think “bruchstellen” basically means “yo mama!”
- Comment on What was the first game you ever bought ? 7 months ago:
Me and my brother combined our money to buy Cyberia (1994). This was a fmv (full motion video) game, which still seemed like a pretty cool concept at the time. We bought it because we were really impressed with the demo, which came on a CD-ROM that was bundled with PC Gamer or some other magazine.
The demo was a section of the game where you were flying around in some sort of aeroplane. The only thing you controlled was the gun. The enemies were superimposed on top of the video, which was fixed.
I enjoyed the flying sections in the full game, but there were also parts where you controlled the main character on the ground. You could only move him between fixed positions and postures, because fmv. In some places you had to shoot enemies, which required very precise timing. This was too hard for me at the time.
I think I kind of regretted spending my money on it at the time, but only a little.
- Comment on what do you think is the future of the internet and tech in general? 7 months ago:
When brain-computer interfaces are perfected our minds will be networked with computers and each other. The concept of privacy will seem very quaint to or children’s children.
Resistance is futile.
- Comment on Fookin Ghosties 7 months ago:
- Comment on [deleted] 7 months ago:
Honestly, if you’re that easily discouraged, maybe you should give up.
Ask yourself, are you passionate enough about telling stories and creating comic books? If this is your first comic book it probably won’t be very good. If you want to become a good writer you need to put in the work. Finish this graphic novel, reflect on what did and didn’t work and make another one, and another and another.
Even if you do become a good author eventually, chances of commercial success are very slim. For every writer that succeeds, there’s a hundred who failed. At the end of the day, the only thing that keeps struggling artists going is sheer love of the game.
Do you care enough about this story, that even if only your mom and a handful of other people end up enjoying it, it was still worth telling? If not, then you’ll never make it. If you do, then you probably still won’t make it.
From what you told us, your friend doesn’t sound like a great friend or critic. What is stupid about it? Why would that stop people from being interested? Even stupid things can be very entertaining. Evil Dead 3: Army of Darkness is very stupid, but one of my favourite movies. Ask your friend for some constructive criticism or just ignore them.
- Comment on 8 months ago:
Check it out! Over there is an old matras covered in colourful pillows. Sorry if it’s a bit smelly. In that corner there’s a beanbag, with a sweet-ass lava lamp and an old record player next to it. The lava lamp works with tea lights, but the record player doesn’t work because there’s no electricity. In the other corner there’s a cardboard box full of old Spider-Man comics! Pretty cool, right?
