urbeker

@urbeker@programming.dev

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨This world is cruel…⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  You are framing the issue as men vs women, it’s classic culture wars.

  Saying that because you could do something all people that can’t do that are inferior is quite an arrogrant stance. Lots of people can give a shit and still be bad at things. Very few people put up a dating profile they think is bad.

  I just think that the unpresidented transformation of how dating works in the last 15ish years, doesn’t work for anyone very well. There are studies showing how it is affecting the fertility rate. With just a handful of companies controlling the algorithm that most people now use to find their partner, with no oversight or accountability.

  I don’t think the dating landscape would be any healthier if everybody suddenly got good photos. Algorithm based dating just leads to general dissatisfaction. Not that it was much better in the past to be fair, but at least it was organic.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨This world is cruel…⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  This is what’s wrong with the culture wars. You know why most men don’t have any pictures of themselves, or if they do it’s of them doing something else? That’s the only time people take pictures of them. Most men literally don’t have someone that they can just ask to take a picture of them. That coupled with the generally terrible body image issues most men have means taking dating profile photos is intimidating, better just to flick through the ten or so photos you already have and pick a couple.

  I would bet the vast majority of men posting pictures of themselves holding fish would love decent photos just of them but have no idea how to do it themselves or have anyone to ask.