wazzup

@wazzup@lemmy.world

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Hahaha, you’re so off the mark. Maybe you should stick to the posters problem and stay out of my business? I’m not bitter at all, on the contrary, I’m 10 years into a loving relationship and marriage, and not married to a narcissistic, cheating non-human that damaged me and our children. We’re doing our best to pick up from her lying and gas-lighting. It was meant to illustrate that those people closest to their children aren’t necessarily the best to give advice.

  As far as the money goes, it was illustrating that I continued to support him monitarily despite his repeated setbacks. Despite other challenges in coordination and cognitive abilities, we worked together and he earned his Eagle in the Boy Scouts. My father didn’t show up for anything.

  You’re not recognizing that I continued to support him with time and money illustrates your inability to objectively examine an issue.

  Good luck.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Same scenario with my son years back. He loved basketball and his skinny, 5ft 8" body was not going to propell him to NBA stardom. My wife accused me of crushing my son’s spirits. I never discouraged him from the sport and went to every high school and travel ball ($$$) game where he mostly sat on the bench. He’s in his 30s now and planning a family, so the dreams are different. I don’t think I did any lasting damage.

  But, would I do it the same way again? It’s nuanced to be sure. We want our children to be prepared for their futures and excel, not wash out. What I would do is look for ways to help him discover, on his own, where his real talent lies and comes to the realization himself.l and be there to soften the blow to that dream. Then, if his passion is still football, help him discover all the different career options are available, on and off the field, that can keep him close to his passion.

  I hope this helps. If you’re asking, you’re likely a better dad that many out there.