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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Royvu on 2023-10-06 19:31:30.
My fiancé has a certain mental condition in the brain. We were engaged before but broke it off when I wanted to transition (ftm). A few years later we reconnected and are engaged again. His mental state seems to have deteriorated more. He does not bathe so much anymore, change clothing or eat properly without my help. Having known him so long I did not mind caring for him in his falling state. Normally people with his condition do not even live this long. The issues I have been having is him occasionally yelling at me when I get anxious. “PANIC!” he yells and thinks it is funny. I mean I can stress over small things and this does not help. He has also gotten worse when I demand he bathes he will occasionally reach out and scratch at me. It has left marks and he later blamed it on the cat. He might not actually remember doing it. I tried to get him up the other day and he hit me with a pillow which injured my already tender ear piercing. (Those can hurt like a mofo). It later came out and swelled shut over night so now I am down a piercing which upsets me since I have been working towards a setup. He is not careful around my piercings at all.
I don’t know what to do. I think I should get him checked into the Hospital for these mental issues. I have been staying with my dad more and moved a lot of my stuff over.
Edit: I have known him since I was 17. He can not take care of himself to the point that he would die without me or someone to care for him so I can not just leave. We have good moments too, he is just getting worse lately. Wanted to share my story to feel less alone, not just for advice.