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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Old-Bar-4817 on 2023-10-06 19:00:51.

so this happened a few months ago, but neither of us talked about it until yesterday. from my point of view he started doing something without me giving consent, and from his point of view i signalled him to do it. let me explain both sides of the story:

my side: we were at a drive in theatre watching a movie, and he had his hand on my thigh. his hand kept going a little lower but i didn’t mind i liked it. eventually his hand was getting closer and i guess i might’ve shifted my body towards him because he started fingering me and stuff. i thought he was just doing this out of the blue so i was confused at first but i was kind of into it so i didn’t say anything. after like 30 seconds i started becoming aware of my surroundings and how people were around us and i started feeling uncomfortable. maybe like another 30 seconds or so later i asked him to stop and he did. i was weirded out after the experience and confused because i didn’t know how to process what just happened.

his side: we were at the drive in watching the movie and he had his hand on my thigh and i gave him a signal to do stuff to me. he was kind of weirded out that i would ask because there’s people around but he did it anyway. he was also weirded out because i was just sitting there and not doing anything in return to him while he was doing stuff to me. he noticed i was looking nervous which made him confused. then i asked him to stop and he did, and that made him even more confused.

(btw when i mean there were people around us, i mean like other parked cars with people inside watching the movie)

anyway, from both sides we both felt very weirded out and confused about the situation but for different reasons. i also want to mention that before we have sex we always give each other consent. not verbal consent, but we usually give each other a look or a nod or something like that. overall, after talking about it yesterday i feel a lot better about the situation to know that it was a misunderstanding.