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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/hellokittynyc1994 on 2023-10-06 13:10:27.
I am getting married in a few months and have been teetering on whether or not to change my last name to my fiancés.
The main reason I DONT want to: the hassle of changing everything down to my birth certificate and social security card.
The main reason I DO want to: because I know having a different last name than your kids can present some problems. My mom had a a different last name than my brother and I and was unable to travel out of the country with us without a copy of our birth certificate (we do leave the country a lot due to family living abroad). There have been times where my mom was actually completely denied travel out of the country with us because she didn’t have the proper paperwork or permission from my father. I remember this being a HUGE problem growing up and a lot of the times, especially if we needed to go out of the country for something important, my mom would just not go without my dad with us to avoid any issues at the airport.
I don’t know how much of this has changed since the 2000’s and if it’s even a problem anymore, but I am sure not having the same last name as your kids still presents it’s issues.
So, I wanted to ask: which is a bigger hassle? A different last name as your kids or changing your name all together?