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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/After-Cow-2738 on 2023-10-05 18:55:23.
I have a dilemma and I need an external opinion about the subject.
My father passed away when I was 4 and my brother, Sam, was 2. 2 years later, my mother met my stepfather, Jack. He is an amazing man and when I was 10, he and mom got married.
He never made us miss anything, he helped both me and my brother throughout our whole life. He was our father figure, he taught us how to approach life and always made sure we knew we could talk with him about anything.
I am 29 now. 4 years ago I met my husband and last month we got married. Everything went fine, the wedding was amazing and the honeymoon was just perfect.
When I came back, though, my mom and my brother were acting weird. They weren’t cold with me but it was clear something was wrong so I asked about it.
It took a bit of convincing but they confessed that they were a bit disappointed with me because I didn’t ask Jack to walk me down the isle ( nobody walked me down the isle, I went alone. It’s not a big tradition in our country. Most people do it but some don’t.). I said that I didn’t know he wanted to do it, we never talked about it.
My mom and Sam told me that months before the wedding Jack confessed to them that he would have really liked to walk me down the isle but he didn’t want to push this request on me so he didn’t say anything. They told me that the two of them had heavily hinted about me asking him about it and, yeah, after they told me, I remembered a few times when that happened, I simply didn’t catch the hint at the time.
I felt like crap and went to talk with him but he simply shrugged it off, said that he wasn’t upset about it and that he is happy I was able to do the wedding as I wanted to. He said I was a beautiful bride, we hugged. I’m still worried about it though.
AITA for not asking him to walk me down the isle?