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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Rough-Front1841 on 2023-10-05 21:14:54.
Original Title: My boyfriend’s is a deal-breaker and he doesn’t get it. They have treated me horribly since the beginning. I have been wanting to go no-contact for a year and I am honestly thinking about breaking up with my boyfriend.
I am seriously done. This weekend, my boyfriend’s grandma died. They were about to leave her to die alone, and my boyfriend of not even two years stayed with her until her last breath. The next day, at the wake, the abusive mother used it to push my boyfriend into forgiving his abusive alcoholic violent father. “Life is short, you need to get along.”
His mother wanted to exclude me from the family and was shitty to me at the start, cause “no one is good enough” for her son. I, on the other hand, have much, much higher studies than he has, and make triple his income. Besides my job, I am artistically successful. I am independent and kind, I have seen the world, and I would consider myself actually quite pretty and smart and a good friend and girlfriend and a decent person.
His best friend, a girl, also told him “to look for someone better”. His dad was physically aggressive towards me, shouted at me while drunk, etc.
His uncle played mind games with me during the whole funeral, cause “he is like this and that’s his humor to manipulate people into humiliating themselves.” Besides this, he is already starting to sell his mother’s stuff, etc.
Next thing, they didn’t even name me on the wake announcement. I was with her when she died. She is not even my grandma.
I said again that I was done with his family. He doesn’t get it, is a total mama-boy right now, even though she was super abusive towards him and they are usually no contact. I told him I had enough, that they were ruining my life, that I was young and wanted to be happy, and that I didn’t want to be involved with them at all. He only looked at me in disbelieve.
I pay the rent for the flat. I am one step ahead of moving back home, leaving my stuff in my old room, and just go travelling the world, cause I have a remote job. And I have options. I am so sick of it. I am no stupid girl, who let’s herself be treated like shit.