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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/JavaJapes on 2023-10-04 20:50:44.
The last time this happened, it ended his sister’s marriage, because her husband asked to open the marriage, she said “it can’t be family members” (because that should be obvious?!) and his first request was to have me. No, he didn’t ever speak to me or my husband about it. He just assumed I would of course be willing. He was my husband’s friend.
Today, a different friend of my husband’s came to drop something off while my husband was away. My dog (over 100lbs mutt, probably German Shepherd/mastiff) would not stop barking at him. Normally he barks at first but would settle down, but not this time. He wanted that guy out. Sure enough, he tries to flirt with me before he goes. So I kicked his ass to the curb.
I’m so sick of this happening.
Even if I wore a paper bag that smelled like literal rotting cow shit, rapists are going to to rape, creeps are gonna creep. But it still makes me want to try in the hopes that someone won’t betray my husband. Which is illogical, given he doesn’t really want to be friends with creeps anyways. But some of you might get the feeling, maybe.
I cant even go to medical professionals without being sexualized. My last psychiatrist and the psychologist before him both said that I give off “sexual energy” and I need to learn how to stop leading men on. Or to the bus stop in a safe neighbourhood; I’ll always worry someone else will force themselves on me again.
For all the people who blame victims for what happens to them (not that I imagine most on this sub are, I would assume the opposite or I wouldn’t bother posting about this here), I grew up religious and sheltered. I am not serving up any kind of energy whatsoever.