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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Low_Big5544 on 2023-10-04 16:51:46.


He has had a vasectomy so there is no practical need to use condoms. He hates them and constantly complained when we used them; things got to a point where he said he would rather have less frequent sex if it means he doesn’t have to wear one. That has ended up being pretty much no sex the last couple of years (and the few encounters we’ve had certainly haven’t helped with the trauma), and he has been expressing a lot recently how much he’s struggling with that which is totally understandable. But when I asked if we could go back to using condoms to make it easier for me to handle emotionally he hit the roof and said it was unreasonable of me to even suggest it knowing how much he hates them.

Idk I’m just so confused, the whole situation feels like there’s some sort of double standard happening but I can’t quite grasp or articulate what it is