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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Big-Reflection2037 on 2023-10-03 15:57:23.
I (19f) told my sister(22f) her boyfriend(24m) makes me uncomfortable and no one was on my side.
So late last year my parents, my sister, her boyfriend and me went out for drinks and when we got back to my house me, my dad and my sisters boyfriend kept drinking in the kitchen. It started when he kept touching my thigh and calling me by my sisters name and I kept telling him I was not her and to stop touching me (my dad was just standing there and watching) after about 20-30 mins of that my dad left and I was honestly terrified that I was now alone with him so I started cleaning up the empty bottles to get ready to go to bed.
I don’t remember the details of the next part all I remember is that he made a joke or something about me being weak so I told him I’d prove I wasn’t … he was winded so I started laughing at him. He got up and basically tackled me to the floor and got on top of me, he held down my arms and told me to apologise so I did, I had gotten out of an ab#sive relationship only months before this and obviously this triggered a lot of stuff so I walked into the utility room because I knew I was going to cry. The light was off and he had followed me (I have no idea why and I don’t want to know what would’ve happened) I heard my dad come back out to the kitchen with my mum and I ran out and said I was tired and was going to bed, I got to my room and just started bawling a few minutes later my mum came in and asked me what was wrong and told me my dad had come into her telling her that my sisters boyfriend was being weird with me so obviously I told her everything that had happened, I told her I wanted to tell my sister the next day my mum told me not to because they were going on holiday in a few days and it would ruin her trip, the next day my parents were having breakfast and I joined them and basically what happened is my dad kept asking what I did and stuff and my mum was still telling me not to tell my sister.
So I didn’t tell her until about 3 weeks ago and she got angry with me and I didn’t end up going to my cousins 21st but I later found out my sisters boyfriend did. my sister has since blocked me on almost everything and my parents think I should reach out to her and explain more (I already told my sister I know it probably wasn’t intentional but it still made me super uncomfortable. I haven’t spoken to anyone in my family since and have been living with my boyfriend
AITA?
There are lots more details but I was trying to keep it as short as possible I’ll post updates here.