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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Lazy_Sell_192 on 2023-10-03 14:23:26.
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I’ve been best friends with Sarah for as long as I can remember. We’ve been through thick and thin together, and I’ve always been her biggest supporter. However, recently, our friendship has hit a rough patch.
A few months ago, Sarah got engaged to her long-term partner, Mark. She was over the moon, and I was genuinely happy for her. She asked me to be her maid of honour, a role I was initially thrilled to accept.
However, as the wedding planning progressed, it became clear that Sarah was changing. She started turning into a bridezilla, making unreasonable demands, and expecting me to drop everything for her wedding. For example:
- She wanted me to plan and fund an extravagant hen’s night that was way beyond my budget.
- She insisted that I wear an expensive dress for the wedding that I couldn’t afford.
- She expected me to handle all the DIY decorations for the wedding, even though I had no experience in it.
Our friendship deteriorated under the strain of wedding planning, and we had several heated arguments. Finally, I decided that I couldn’t continue being her maid of honour, and I told her my reasons.
Sarah was devastated, and she accused me of abandoning her during one of the most important moments of her life. She said I was being selfish and that I should have stuck by her no matter what. Now, I’m torn between feeling guilty for letting her down and feeling like I needed to prioritise my own well-being.
AITA for not wanting to attend my best friends wedding as her maid of honour?