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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/WholeBother on 2023-10-03 02:56:30.
We just mkved and I’ve been working a lot the last few days on renovating the new apartment. During this time I’ve gotten a few minor injuries, nothing major, just stuff that happens while working. Scrapes, bruises, cuts, etc. After each one when my girlfriend is around, she makes sure to tell me “you should be more careful!” This annoys me, and I’ve told her, because it’s just hindsight that does nothing, and I’d appreciate it more instead if she just asked if I was okay, or literally anything else.
Earlier I was trying to fix a window that came off the frame suddenly, and while forcing it back in, it slammed shut on my fingers. I could hardly think from the pain and half my hand was numb. Then my girlfriend tells me “be more careful next time.” And I’ll admit, in my state there, I did get mad. I told her that sure, next time I’ll be more careful and just let the window drop down onto the street below. That turned into a big argument.
Couple of hours have passed, and she doesn’t see my point. She thinks saying that from a place of caring shouldn’t annoy me, and I think that telling someone to be more careful after they get hurt comes across as condescending and doesn’t help.
Tl;Dr: girlfriend always tells me to be more careful after I hurt myself, and it annoyed me to the point where I snapped.