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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Fantastic_Asparagus3 on 2023-10-02 21:44:20.

i decided to have my friend visit this weekend. to my surprise he brought up my best friend with him. for context my best friends dad died just a few weeks ago. i very much have been there for her considering my dad died 2 yrs ago. anyways i didn’t expect her to come up and was thrown off. i convinced them to spend another night even tho i had a 12 hr shift that night. i told them to hang out at my bar while i worked. they kept leaving and i understood that. they said they would meet me at my job to walk me home after my shift at 3am. however about 20 minutes after they said they left they were still at my apartment. so i found another way home. however on my way back from my shift i saw them hooking up through my window, in my bed. i walked in and said “so yall have been fucking in my bed while ive been at work?”. after that i was pretty silent and it was incredibly awkward. i asked them to leave the next morning and not much else was said. theres a lot of context surrounding why this upset me, but i have often given parts of my personal and private life to my best friend out of love. but it feels like a boundary was crossed and also feels like they drove up to my apartment to have time with eachother outside their parents homes. am i the asshole for giving the cold shoulder and being outwardly upset with them, despite my friend going through a hard time?

EDIT: to make things maybe a lil clearer, my friend (lets call him A) wanted to come up and visit to go to bars and get out of our hometown. i dont have any attraction to this friend, and had even made it clear he would be sleeping on my floor or my couch. when they got here, i noticed he brought my other friend (lets call her B). B and A aren’t in a relationship, but had hooked up once previously in a messy situation. it was very nice to see B, but she was in bad shape and i ended up having to take care of her for most of the weekend (buying her food, making her eat, getting her free drinks, etc.) i had also let this friend sleep in my bed back home for 8 months when she was kicked out of her house about 2 yrs ago. i was more than willing to help her out, but i feel like there has been no boundaries since.