This is an automated archive made by the Lemmit Bot.
The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/GreenMirinda on 2023-10-02 16:49:25.
I will keep this vague on purpose, but will try to explain as best as I can. We are in our late 30s, early 40s.
I have a client who requires we meet once in a few months, usually to discuss the project we are working on or a new one. This can absolutely be done online, but this client requires meeting in person.
Since the first meeting my BF has had a problem with it. He keeps saying it makes him uncomfortable and why cant we just meet on Zoom like normal people. I completely get his position, but this client has their own ways.
The situation has escalated a bit as we used to meet near my work for a few hours, but this time I need to travel there and spend one night in a hotel. I would like to point out that there is a lot of money involved in this meeting and it will only help my company (which I own).
My BF position is that it makes him uncomfortable and I should not go. We are supposed to go away for the weekend and he said if I book the flights to meet this client, I can cancel the weekend plans becuase he wont go there with the thought that the very next day I will be doing something he doesnt agree with.
I have tried to explain that millions of people travel for work meetings, but all he says is that I should choose him and not my client and that he feels unappreciated and like I prefer to make money over his feelings.
I dont like him giving me an ultimatum about the weekend trip and I told him I will go on my own if he decides to stand his ground.
He is usually a super reasonable person and thinks rationally. This is out of the left field and I dont know how to handle this anymore. He wants me to refuse to travel and make them come here but I dont want to do that. They are the ones who want to pay me a ton of money for my work, the least I can do is travel to them.
Do you have any ideas how to find a compromise or solve this going forward?
Sorry for the rant, we are in the middle of the fight and I am not thinking clearly. I feel like I am living in a crazy town.