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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Choice_Cherry_9641 on 2023-10-02 15:12:05.
I (22 f) have lived with my roommates (RM1 27 f and RM2 30 m) for nearly 3 years. They got married in May and are expecting their first baby in December.
We all co signed a lease and are still contracted another 8 months (6 months after the baby’s due). I for one adore children and even work in a child care centre.
My roommates have always been incredibly lazy. I cook everyone’s meals, clean the dishes, vacuum, mow the lawns and pick up after THEIR dog that is always pooing inside and gets into everything. (I also agreed to an outside pet and we are not met to have any according to our lease agreement).
All of our friends were excited about the pregnancy and I was at first too. But now I’m filled with dread.
At this points it’s important to note that RM2 hasn’t held a steady job in 3 years. So they always “tight” on money, unless the spending benefits them. While RM1 has 2 jobs, but is always off “sick”. I use “sick” as this was an issue even before the pregnancy. There have been multiple occasions where I have had to cover their rent and groceries (and I’ve never been paid back).
RM1 spends most of her time laying in bed complains that she’s too ill to work or help around the house, but is ok to go out 3 nights a week and continues to play weekend sports. And RM2 always has an excuse to why he’s not helping or he “will get to it later”. As a result I’m completely burnt out from maintaining the house, working 2 jobs, studying and looking after my 27-30year old children.
When ever someone offers them any advice or assistance during the pregnancy they’ll reply “but OP will help with the baby”. And the closer it gets to baby’s due date, the more they shift the responsibility of their unborn child onto me: “OP will babysit” “OP will buy this, that etc”
And the comment that pushed me over the edge was “If we’re too tired we’ll move the cot into OPs room, she can deal with it”.
To which I replied they shouldn’t have a baby when they can’t look after themselves, and that I refuse to responsible for their kid. This made RM1 cry, but I don’t feel bad, it was long over due to be said, but they’re now mad at me saying that I’m “too young to know the stress of having kids”. Half our mutual friends are on my side, and the other half are just mad that I said it, rather about what I said. Am I the asshole?
The easiest solution would be to move out, but currently everything in my area is out of my price range. I’ve even applied for a few places on my own but am unfortunately unsuccessful due too lack of rental history, and the one I due have is ruined due their dog being inside, despite countless efforts to move him into the yard.