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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Available-Economy-46 on 2023-10-01 22:27:30.

This is an anonymous account. I’m 65 and terminally ill. My husband passed many years ago. I have two children, one son named Michael, and another named William.

Michael is very distant and has always been a wanderer. He has not walked a straight path and lives a life with little to no obligations/responsibility. His daughter, Lily (19), is very close with me and is currently working two jobs and going to nursing school. We recently found out that she’s expecting her first child. She has nothing to lean on as her father is mostly uninvolved. Her mother is also estranged and not in her life.

William is the exact opposite of his brother. He’s lived a very admirable, typical life thus far. His stepdaughter (only child) is almost 27 now. She has a very large financial cushion as well as a large family on her mother’s side to fall back on. We are not close and she was never interested in maintaining a relationship with me (she came into our lives as a late teenager and was civil, but not affectionate). I have no ill will for her; she’s a very smart and hardworking woman, but we just don’t have that same bond or tie.

When drawing up my will and last wishes I made sure to leave something to everyone. Be it family heirlooms or silly keepsakes, everyone will have something to remember me by. Michael’s stepdaughter will receive vintage books that I know she appreciates as we’ve communicated about it before. She’s very into collectibles and reading. She does not want or need money.

Lily will receive most of my savings and money. I do not trust Michael with large sums and William is not in need of it. Lily is very much in debt and struggling, and I know that she would benefit from the boost to eventually buy a house and pay for her child’s needs. This decision was not made lightly and I fully trust her to use the money wisely.

William and his wife do not approve of the decision (not their place, but it is taking a toll on me emotionally). They believe that their daughter deserves more, if not half, of what I’ve decided to give to Lily. Their daughter herself does not care and is grateful for what she’s been allocated for the day I inevitably go. It’s causing a rift in the family and is taking a severe toll on my emotional and physical health. I do not know exactly how much time I have left, just that it’s not much, and this is not how I envisioned my final months going. I’ve heard that they’re making plans to try and contest the will when I do pass. I know that there’s no room for such things and that it is bulletproof, but it’s extremely hurtful.

AITA? Could I have divided this any better?

Edit: I did not proofread, listed William as Michael in the last paragraph. Fixed.