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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/omgicantspeak on 2023-09-27 20:47:53.

For years, my coworkers have been making comments on my body and weight. For about three years, I was a bit overweight, by about 20 lbs/9 kg overweight at 5’8”/173 cm.

For some reason, this invited all kinds of shaming and nasty comments from my coworkers, despite some of them being significantly chubbier than I was for their height and build. I never would make comments on their bodies, and would generally just awkwardly smile or say “oh”. I’d get comments about how fat I was all of the time, for years.

Recently, I’ve lost some weight. 34 lbs/15 kg. I now weigh 150 lbs at 5’8”, or 68 kg at 173 cm. This is a perfectly normal weight for a woman of my height.

Now, guess what. At first, my coworkers were all asking how I’ve been losing weight, asking if I’m taking medication (no but it’s none of their business), what exactly I’m eating. One of them, who is obviously obese, but is 4’9”/155 cm keeps pointing out how huge and chunky I was before and now I’m not.

According to my coworkers now I’m too thin, they’re asking why I’m skinny, “my face was more beautiful before”, and I look “sick.”

I’ve been getting these kinds of comments regularly for the past few weeks but yesterday they crossed the line by saying that I look sick, and deliberately telling me that I need to stop. Another obese coworker who is 4’9”/155 cm started giving me diet advice, told me to eat my normal diet because I’m exercising more now and to regain weight.

It was the last straw yesterday. I am a quiet girl who has never raised my voice ever before at work. I stood in the center of the kitchen, and yelled

“Everyone, needs to SHUT THE FUCK UP about my body. No one, should be talking about my fucking body. I’m never enough for any of you, and I don’t want to hear it anymore. All of you, need to SHUT THE FUCK UP”

The whole place went quiet, I walked away for a bit, and then apologized for my language. One told me, they are concerned for me. The same woman said I was fat a year ago.

I told them it’s none of their business and I’m never enough for them, and those kinds of comments are inappropriate at work regardless despite of intent. One tried to spin it as compliments and I said, regardless of intent it’s inappropriate and I don’t want to hear about it.

I snapped. I finally snapped. I just couldn’t take it anymore.

AITA?