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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Limp_Hyena_9825 on 2023-09-27 18:10:55.
I (38m) pay all the expenses of the house (food, utilities ect.) and my wife is a stay at home mom. While I was packing my kids’ lunches, I told her that I’m thinking about getting a new car since mine is almost 20 years old. She told me I shouldn’t buy things I don’t need even though I have more than enough to afford it. I told her a car is a necessity since I have an hour commute everyday but she insisted that I don’t get a new car. After a while of back and forth I asked her why she cared so much if I have more than enough money and she responded with “you won’t have as much money to spend on me and the kids.” That really set me off since she didn’t work I did a lot of the chores around the house. I told her she has no say what I do with my money since she brings in no income and doesn’t help much around the house. She said she did almost everything around the house which was a complete lie. As of right now I make sure the kids get to school on time and make sure they do their homework and most of the house chores. The only thing she really does is cook and clean the kitchen. We have a lawn service for outdoor maintenance but she wants me to cancel that and do it myself to save money as well. Ever since that argument shes been ignoring me and I feel I may have overstepped a little bit, AITA?
Edit: The tittle has a typo, “being” is supposed to be bring in.
Edit 2: I talked to her about her needing to do more chores around the house if she doesn’t want to work but she said that wasn’t fair because she always did only the kitchen so I don’t really know what to do anymore.
Final edit: Turns out she didn’t want me to get a car is because she bought herself expensive jewelry without talking to me first. Thanks for the input everyone but I’m strongly considering divorce after this.