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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/yusaki on 2023-09-27 13:32:13.

So I (27F) was browsing YouTube and watched a video about self love and body acceptance. They were showing a chart with different types of boobs: round, small, big, etc. And then I saw a breast type that looked similar to mine: tuberous*. I googled “tuberous breast” to find out more about that, because I was curious. I wish I wouldn’t have done that.

Apparently there is a genetic disorder called “Tuberous Breast Deformity”. It is diagnosed when the lower quadrant of the breast is poorly developed which leads to hanging boobs. It’s also characterised by a large areola. It is exactly what my boobs look like.

The thing is, I always knew that my breasts look different to those we’re always presented to. But I saw it more like a “media presents us with unattainable beauty standards” - thing. Reading that my breasts are a genetic deformity, makes me feel like everyone else is having those beautiful, round boobs and I am the odd one out.

What’s more, is that when I try to find out about people living with this breast form, the first thing google shows me are plastic surgery clinics, as if I have to suffer from having “such ugly boobs” and that they need to be “fixed”.

I cried for about 2 hours now. I don’t want to “fix” my boobs. I learned to accept them as I grew older, and now finding out that they are abnormal feels like taking all those steps back to feeling more insecure than ever.

I just needed to get that off my chest (pun intended). Writing it down and trying to find words that described what I’m feeling rn (especially because I am no native speaker) was a good distraction. But still I would love to hear some opinions or advice. I know that every woman is (or was) struggling with accepting their boobs. It was just a shock learning that I “should feel ashamed” for having abnormal breasts.

*Edit: Please exchange tuberous with tubular, I think I used it wrong (?). Medical terms in another language are hard.