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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/NostalgiaTM on 2023-09-26 20:37:45.
My Roommate (19f) was having a friend over for a little hang out that was said to end around 10pm. Their friend (20f) had the same height and build as my other roommate. They were very easy to be confuse for one another because they also had similar hair and styles and even similar voices when heard through a wall. I (20m) was in my room and wanted to get some dessert from my downstairs fridge. I had some ice cream sandwiches and didn’t feel very sociable so I knew it would be a 30 second to 1 minute grab and go. I had pajama pants on and a jacket that was unbuttoned so my midriff was exposed. I thought nothing of it and thought it was just my 2 roommates downstairs seeing how it was about 10:45 pm. My roommates were always fine if I was shirtless or even in my underwear because they always grew up with brothers, so I thought nothing of it. But instead of seeing my two roommates I saw her friend so I said hi, grabbed my sandwich, and went back upstairs. About a 30 second grab. But the next day I was greeted to a text filled with insults that I had made her friend uncomfortable and unsafe by showing my midriff. When I tried to explain what I was doing and that I felt that wasn’t my fault she explained that I’m not a girl and wouldn’t understand. Had she never seen people run shirtless outside? Or has she ever been to a pool? I refused to apologize because I felt I had done normal things in my own home and how she was supposed to be gone, but wasn’t. AITA for not apologizing?