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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Sensitive_Mouse6747 on 2023-09-26 03:50:45.
So my wife (28) and I (30M) have been together for 5 years and have been engaged for 2. From the beginning her and I decided that we wanted to elope and then have a nice party a little farther down the road so both the families could come and celebrate with us, which we told our families. We decided that our elopement date was going to be on our 5 year anniversary and only told our parents because even though we love our families they can tend to be very opinionated on matters, though we weren’t trying to keep it a secret seeing as both sides already knew we were eloping within the year. We planned to tell our families a little later in the month once my wife had updated all of her paperwork. Once we were married my wife posted some of the pictures on Instagram. Nothing huge, just some pictures of her and I smiling and hugging and one of us showing our new rings. Her cousin saw her post and decided she was going to tell everyone on her dad’s side of the family. Both her grandmother, aunt and uncle were furious and hurt that we didn’t include them in our special day. They accused us of being selfish, disrespectful, and ungrateful. They said we betrayed their trust and ruined our relationship with them. We tried to explain our reasons and apologize for hurting their feelings, but they wouldn’t listen. They said we owed them an explanation and a proper wedding. They demanded that we have a do-over ceremony with all of them invited. They also threatened to cut us off if we didn’t comply. We also felt that they were being unreasonable and manipulative. We told them that we loved them and wanted them in our lives, but we wouldn’t let them dictate our decisions. They said we were being stubborn and immature, and they hung up on us. We haven’t heard from them since then, and we don’t know if they will ever talk to us again. We are happy with our marriage, but we are sad about losing our families. We don’t think we did anything wrong. So, reddit, AITA for getting married without telling my wife’s family?