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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Ok_Translator1301 on 2023-09-25 04:54:41.
My daughter is 23 and she requested dinner with us because she had some important to tell us–being my wife and I.
She introduced us and came out. My wife was emotional gave her a big hug, and told her how proud she was. I on the other hand did not react to her coming out. I honestly did not care about that part. I was honest her partner was cool, and she was very interesting.
My wife told me I was rude for ignoring our daughter’s announcement. I told my wife, that I did not care who she was attracted to all I cared about was if she was happy. I tried to explain I did not care about that stuff, people like who they like I don’t need labels for that. Love is love.
She said my view is slightly homophobic because it shows I am not acknowledging a different view. I do not see it that way, am I the asshole should I apologize to my daughter and her partner?
Edit: For added context, I did not treat her situation as any different from her brothers. I took the time to get to know the person they were with.
My wife feels I should have treated it differently because they are different situations, ignoring that fact does not help.
Update: Thanks for the input, everyone is right I should have just asked my daughter. I will see if she is free tomorrow for some coffee and have a chat with her. I am sure my wife’s words just got to me, but only one way to find out right?
Thanks again.