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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/L8rG9r on 2023-09-25 01:24:06.
Now, I havent used apps much, and not in a while, but is it delusional of me to think that men in their thirties who have good jobs and otherwise seem like quality people would be a bit more forthright in the process of dating? These are men who have long format conversations about interesting things, claim to want a long term partner, and follow up in conversation, but when it comes to meeting for the first time, they’ll propose a specific date and then follow it up with no planning or a very general “down to meet” message. Are you guys experiencing this?
Date #1: We discuss classical music for many messages back and forth for a few days,Him: “I’d like to take you to see this concert violinist or an opera this Saturday.”
Great so we have plans.
Day of “Which one did you decide? What time were you thinking”
No reply for hours. “Hmmm, I’m up for anything.”
Date #2: “Would you want to get some dinner at X location X day at around X time?”
Me: Yes, lets do that
Me day of: “Still on for tonight?”
Him: “Sure I want to see you. Up for anything”
It’s as though they want to be thought of as a man who asked a woman out, took the lead, and want the respect associated with that, but don’t actually follow with action. Its as though they think it will trick women into thinking they have put in a kind of effort they didn’t or are a kind of person they aren’t.
Are you guys experiencing this?