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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/throwaway4891kid on 2023-09-24 18:18:02.

I went on a very good first date last night. Probably the best and easiest date ever…2.5 hours of easy convo. I have been dating for 4+ years and have not connected with anyone on all levels. It was weird because when he said something or I said something, it was just like “yeah…” because we totally got it and shared the same unusual perspecrive on things. He was shocked at times, I could tell by his facial expressions lol. He is cute too, not my usual type but I am attracted. And I could tell he was attracted to me, and he complimented me a lot.

It was only the first date tho. And we spent about 5 days communicating beforehand (we met on a dating app).

What gives me pause is that he told me he is moving to another major city that is about a 4 hour drive (or 3 hour train ride) from me for 6 months. It’s a city I always love to visit and envisioned living for a bit. I was just in the city a couple weeks ago and told my friend “every time time I’m here, I want to move here.” I even job hunted there a few years ago before covid but now I work remotely full time. He said he understands if its a dealbreaker but that its not for him, and that he would make all of the effort to do long distance. He said he would text, face time daily and take the train on weeekends but of course would love if I visited him. It was the first date so I thought it was premature, so I said we can figure it out when we get there. He did want to know how I felt about his move generally, and he said I could take my time thinking about it.

I asked if he planned to move back to my city after the 6 months and he admitted its not his favorite place but that his business is based here and he would settle here if his partner was here. He is giving up his place here.

I’m in my late 30s and he is 40.

Honestly if I knew he was leaving, I probably would have not gone on the date. He leaves in 2 months and asked me out again and I do want to continue seeing him. I like him, something about him feels good in a healthy way but I am afraid of falling for someone and investing time in someone who is moving.

I am continuing to date other people. But I am experienced enough to know that the way we were in sync is rare.

What should I do?!