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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Goaty_Junior on 2023-09-24 06:44:41.

Background, this guy is a friend of my husband. We’ll call him Andrew. He is married and has a daughter. This “man” just makes really weird sexual comments constantly. Like whenever there is silence, he will fill the void with weird phrases like “caca-peepee-poopy town” and lots of weird phrases all ending in “bitch”. And of course, out of place female moans. This man is almost 40 and talking like he is a 13 year old boy.

We have a party coming up in the end of October and as I’m talking about dinner choices with our mutual friends, Andrew speaks up and I’m filled with a sense of dread that this guy is going to be at the party. At first I told my husband I didn’t want him to come because his weird remarks make me uncomfortable. My husband told me that would be incredibly rude because Andrew already believed he was invited and to uninvite him would be awkward. As much as I hated to say it, I agreed and told my husband he was right.

The one thing I asked my husband for is that I can come to him if Andrew’s comments got to be too much and have him tell Andrew to tone it down. I can take a few weird things, but a whole night of moans and “fuck yeah bitch” is just too uncomfortable to me. My husband denied this request. He said “That’s just how he is. What you want me to tell him to stop just because you’re uncomfortable?”

YES! I do want you to stand up for your wife while someone is making her uncomfortable! But I guess my husband telling Andrew to stop would be rude, and heaven forbid my husband feel uncomfortable for standing up for his wife…

Why are men like this!? They claim they want to protect their girlfriend/wife/partner, yet when these women come to them and say “help me”, their response is to just shrug their shoulders and tell us we’re being unreasonable. I’m just so frustrated that I don’t even know what to say to my husband. Clearly I’m going to have to take matters into my own hands.

So, anything I can say to Andrew when he’s getting bad that also doesn’t make me look bad for standing up for myself and they other girls at my party?