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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Waste_Lab8953 on 2023-09-23 19:09:38.
I’ll try to keep this short and simple as I’m all over the place and I’m stressed rn.
My (20f), parents (48f and 61m) are the stereotype of an Asian parent. They are the literal definition of helicopter parents and this time they crossed the line.
So I’m moving out of my parents house, I’m assembling shit and moving it into my new house alone with my cat and my parents have been hassling me about moving out before marriage and moving out in general.
A few things my mom has enjoyed saying recently is, “Why can’t you just be like your brother?” (My brother who died at 3. Like how am I supposed to do that??) “Don’t you love me??” Among other things.
So I’m 2 days into moving into my house, I’ve already set up a few rooms and was working on getting me bed put together and my mom calls me and here’s a summary of what she said: I have found you something you will enjoy a lot!“” And so I’m like thinking maybe she’s finally warmed up to me moving out and got me something.
No. Nothing like that. My mother had brought over her nephew, my cousin. I know a lot of Asian cultures call a lot of people aunties ext but this is like my moms-brothers-son.
She told me about how he’s in school for a medical license and will be able to provide for me and that bullshit, and at this point I’m confused and ask what’s happening and she excitedly told me that she wants me to marry MY COUSIN.
I proceeded to yell at her for like half an hour and she cried and was saying things like “don’t you love your mother” “why must you hurt me so” as well as other things.
I basically just walked out and I’m thinking about it now, sitting on my new room and I don’t know if 1: I’m a complete dick for snapping and screaming at my mother how I need indepence and she’s being annoying and controlling asf and 2: What I should do as of now.
Edit: Thank you all for the comments I wasn’t expecting all of these. I am definitely going to start cutting contact and seek therapy because this is only one of the many situations. Again thank you for the comments and advice I’m taking them all into thought on how to handle this, I don’t know what’s going through her head especially the cousin part.