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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/More_Dragonfruit_410 on 2023-09-23 14:28:08.
Throwaway for obvious reasons.
Me and my wife just brought our first son into the world a few months ago and since then have had more than a few disagreements on the role her parents will play in our sons life.
She wants them to be fully involved, babysitting, asking for advice, you name it.
I don’t want them involved at all. I’ve been with my wife over 6 years and in that time I’ve seen h scam people out of money, take advantage of the elderly, attempt to use physical force on her, steal thousands of dollars from their siblings and children, scream in the face of their other 3 year old granddaughter for singing, constantly criticise her sisters parenting, and worst for me is seeing them take the liberty of “disciplining” someone else’s child for being disobedient or because they’re angry.
I’ve tried to talk to my wife but she insists I’m overreacting and that her parents have changed. I think she’s so used to it since she grew up with it that she doesn’t understand how potentially damaging all that could be for a kid. She says that I am disallowing my son from having a relationship with his grandparents because I personally don’t like them, and that I should let him decide for himself.
Idk what to do and this is putting a lot of strain on my marriage. So AITAH?