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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/coldsalamander90 on 2023-09-23 13:27:20.
I have a 17yo daughter. A few years ago she became best friends with a girl I shall call Larissa for this post. Larissa frequently comes around to our house and I have been a sort of surrogate father figure for her at times cause her dad is not in the picture. Larissa is pretty much welcome at anytime in our house and sometimes she comes around even when my daughter is out which wasn’t really an issue for us until recently. She would just come and stay in our daughter’s room or sit in the living room and scroll through her phone etc.
A few months or so ago, I started to feel a shift in Larissa’s attitude towards me. I started to sense that she had developed a sort of a crush on me. My wife confirmed that she sensed the same shift but we both thought this was harmless and that it would probably pass.
However, Larissa has been making somewhat suggestive remarks about how she would turn 18 soon to me for the past couple of weeks. I have explicitly told her that I see her as a daughter and a child. I’ve felt very uncomfortable whenever Larissa has been around the house especially when neither my wife or daughter are in the same room.
I talked things over with my wife and we decided that Larissa can only visit when our daughter is home and that they should spend most of their time in her room unless they are eating or watching something in the living room.
My daughter thinks these rules are “ridiculous”. We didn’t really discuss why we implemented these new rules as we didn’t want to cause any embarassment. Larissa has told us that she understands that she is no longer welcome and is “banned” from the house and not to worry cause she won’t be coming around anymore.
I do feel bad for taking away a space that probably was a space safe for Larissa but I’m also weary of Larissa’s crush and it makes me uncomfortable and I really don’t want to risk even potentially being labelled something even close to a creep. But I do feel like an asshole cause she has been “banned” to save potential trouble, but cause she’s caused any yet.
AITA?