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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Sensitive-Concern598 on 2023-09-23 02:22:39.
Like, I’m not looking for grand gestures. I’m not looking for a man to spend a bunch of money on me. I’m not looking for a guy who looks like Henry Cavill or Oscar Issac. I just want a partner who is as into me as I am into them. Why is that too high of a standard?
The last few relationships I’ve been in have felt so one sided. If I wanted to go out on a date, I had to plan the whole thing. One of my exes was chronically late to everything, and not like 5-10 minutes late. Like, 30-60 minutes behind, no matter the circumstances. No remorse. Another guy spent every free moment he had drinking/drunk, so getting him to do couple’s stuff was a nightmare. And he complained about it constantly. I am so angry at myself for wasting 2 years of my life on that asshole.
So now, at 30, I feel like I’ve gotten a pretty good idea of who I am as a person and what I want out of a relationship (I have my amazing therapist to thank for that). And I don’t think I want anything unrealistic. I just want someone who is going to match my energy. Who will initiate conversation as often as I do, who will take am equal interest in my hobbies as I do theirs. Someone who actually want to spend time with me, and show up on time, sober and happy to see me.
But apparently, that’s too much to ask. At least it was too much to ask the guys I’ve dated.