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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/SilentBunch5189 on 2023-09-22 11:21:21.
My (25F) best friend Jen (24F) has been dating her girlfriend (Alexandra 28F) for around 6 months. Jen’s been asking me to come over to Alex’s house for dinner with my husband James (29M). She really wants us and her girlfriend to get along better and hasn’t let go of this dinner idea. We have a two year old so it took us a while until we were able to manage. But we did accept.
Alexandra is a but different from us. For instance she comes from generational wealth, knows her way around art, is a bit arrogant, etc. However since she makes Jen exceptionally happy, I don’t really care. It still sometimes shows that she has had a very different background.
Alexandra’s house was huge. James and I were just looking at sculptures, paintings etc. I wanted to be nice, so I asked Alexandra about this painting that she had. She went on to explain who painted that, what it meant, how she bought it, etc. James asked her how much it cost her and she said it was around 140K.
My eyeballs probably got out of my head because you could easily buy a house with that money! I was so surprised that I said ‘holy f##k you paid that much for this thing?’ Alexandra did nor appreciate that and said art really didn’t have a price and stuff like that.
During dinner, I made another one of these comments when I realized the cutlery used at our table were all silver. I was like it’s heavier, not comfortable, and they cost god knows what. Alexandra clearly didn’t like this comment too because I saw her squeezing Jen’s hand a bit but thankfully she didn’t say anything.
After dinner Jen told me I had embarrassed her with those comments and said she wanted us and Alexandra to bond better not the other way around. She is still upset with me. AITA?
Edit: Jen also is much more comfortable financially but she spends money way more reasonably unlike her gf which is what caught me off guard