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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Whore4cake on 2023-09-21 18:43:07.
As a woman who dates in heterosexual relationships I’ve noticed women are often taken advantage of in situationships. Men who don’t want to commit to you will erode your self esteem overtime.
He will gain respect and admiration from his peers for landing a woman (that is often out of his league). While you will be suffering (derailing your life for months, or years), recieving less than bare minimum treatment, and enabling this emotional abuse for him to do to other women moving forward. At the end of the day, we live in a patriarchal society and it’s a lot of young girls who are vulnerable to this trend of noncommittal relations who I worry for.
I’m all for women enjoying sex but I was recently in this position myself, and the trauma it’s left me with one I want other women to avoid if possible. What started as the man pursing me and lovebombing me only to pull away after a few weeks and leave me chasing, turned into me putting myself into smaller and smaller boxes for him to enjoy at his desired leisure through coercion and manipulation.
Yes, a lot of it falls on me not knowing my worth but I’m 21 and have never been in this kind of relationship with a man who was a bit older than me. Just thought I would share.