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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/mimthemad on 2023-09-21 17:05:32.
Last night, our 2.5 year old vomited twice in the middle of the night. I literally had to turn on the lights and wake his ass up to help me get her and the bed cleaned off. She has had a cough for a couple of days, and the first time it sounded like she was coughing up phlegm and the coughing ended up triggering some heaving and vomiting. After the second time at 4am, it became clear to me she was not going to be able to go to daycare today (they have a rule about not coming for 24 hours after vomiting), as the second one was definitely not triggered by coughing. So at 4am I’m using the app to schedule a doctor’s appointment for her and emailing my boss and work team that I will need to stay home with my daughter. My husband wakes up enough to confirm he isn’t personally covered in vomit, goes back to sleep, and then gets up and gets dressed for work at 7. Literally zero thought about the fact that our daughter needs to stay home or go to the doctor. Literally zero thought that he might be the one to stay home with her. For reference, he started his job just after she was born and we have deliberately had me be the one to stay home with her for the first two years until he was stable at a new job. He is stable now, we make the same amount of money, and nobody is going to give him any trouble if he takes a sick day to take care of his kid. Not that he ever has tried. When I pointed out this morning that he could trade off with me and cover her for the afternoon (I have always been the one to stay with her in the past but had something important going on at work today), he got mad and said he was way behind at work and walked away. Fucking ridiculous. I’m willing to get money this is the default for most couples.