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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Ebbie45 on 2023-09-20 19:04:04.
Y’all…I am so tired of this refrain from men. It:
- Plays into the hysterical, emotional woman stereotype
- Portrays women as incapable, unintelligent, and/OR conniving manipulators hell-bent on ruining men’s lives
- Intentionally calls into question women’s expertise in identifying their own lived experiences
- Absolves men of responsibility for examining their own behavior
- Reinforces misconceptions that false abuse claims are common
- Punishes women for the Me Too movement
- Emphasizes to other men the misconception that “if a woman utters the word rape you’ll have a SWAT team at your door in seconds” (yes, some dude on Reddit actually wrote that verbatim once)
- Attempts to make other men more focused on fear of being falsely accused of harassment than on their duty to contribute to harassment prevention in the first place
- Is downright fear-mongering and intentionally so
And before some dude pops in with “but women do make false abuse claims!” Yes, sometimes they do, and so do men - which is one of the reasons why female DV victims are often criminalized and hit with DV charges for self-defense or resistive violence. But the notion that women’s false abuse claims are common is unequivocally false. And y’all conveniently leave out how often male abusers will try to convince police, doctors, judges, lawyers, and mental health professionals that their female partner is “insane” and “aggressive” and “unhinged, unstable, abusive, monstrous,” etc.
I work in DV and the number of women who have been brutally killed by a male partner after the woman was previously arrested for DV against him is staggering. Men are out here strangling, beating, stabbing, and assaulting their wives and girlfriends and still ending up with their partners being framed as the abuser.
My inbox is ready and open for the harassment I’m sure I’ll receive as a result of posting this.