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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/OkCanary8009 on 2023-09-20 03:33:06.
I (F23) have an older brother we’ll call him “Alan” (M28). I consider my brother my bestfriend. Alan and I have a tradition of spending Sunday nights together. We play videogames, chat, drink beer nd just chill. We can’t hang out that much anymore since I’m a college student and he’s busy with work but we mantained this little tradition.
Alan married “Tara” (F28) a women he meet in college. They have been married for two years. I really liked Tara and she makes my brother happy, I never really got to be bestfriend with her but she’s very cool. A day, my brother asked me to talk. He explaines that Tara feel kind of bothered by our tradition but he didn’t explain why. I thought it was because she wanted to spend the Sunday nights with him. Welp, fair enough. I asked him if he would prefer that we stop these moments for a while so she didn’t get mad at him, which he refused and said that he already spended a lot of time with her. It kinda puzzled me but I said “Okay, fine”.
The big problem starts here: I was visiting Tara and Alan (by Alan’s invitation), everything was going smoothly until Alan went to the store to buy some snacks & beer. Tara became serious and asked me to talk. I said “Yeah, sure”. She started to explain that she didn’t want us to hang out that much anymore. I got confused and asked her why.
Tara then began to say that she finds it is innapropiate since because Alan is not a female. I found this response so funny but weird lmao. I asked her why would it be innapropiate and what does sex has to do with this. She says that she feels uncomfortable to think that her husband is spending time with a female. I politely asked her if she was insinuating that things could happen between me and my brother just because our sex, she answered with “I believe so”. I found this so disgusting to be honest. I told her that she was being ridiculous and creepy. I couldn’t be alone with her anymore so I took my things and got off their apartament. I called my brother later and explained that I had other things to do.
AITA? I spoke about this with my mom and she was also super confused also. But she said that calling Tara concerns “ridiculous” was mean and that maybe she experienced something and this is why she got triggered by my closeness to my brother. This had me thinking.
Look, I would have totally taken a response like “I just want to spend more time with him”, I would have totally distanced myself a little so I wouldn’t be a problem in their relationship. But I felt totally offended by the fact that she suggested something sexual could happen between me and my sibling.