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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/RepresentativeCat890 on 2023-09-19 09:10:15.


About a month ago, a friend of mine borrowed some money from me. For context, in my country we use cash for 90% of transactions. He said he was getting paid in 2 days, and he would return it then. Sure, he came to my place to get it. On the day he was supposed to come back with it, he said he finished work late. The next morning he said he left for work earlier than usual. It was reason after reason for about 3 days, then I stopped asking, trusting that he’d come with it. I didn’t need it immediately.

The next week he stopped responding to my “hi” messages. Until I called then he said he’d come with the money later that day, he didn’t show up. The next day I called again and he said he would send it to me, i preferred cash but I just told him to send. He didn’t. When I called him to ask for help with something, my number had been blocked. This was 2 and a half weeks ago.

3 days after, he texted me and told me he’d just gotten home from hospital, and he had the money on him. I told him to bring it home or send it over the phone, nothing until now. My calls are still blocked and he ignores my messages. So yesterday I went to the police station to ask if there was anything I could do, and they offered to help even though they don’t deal with such issues. They called him and asked him to come over.

Now he’s blowing up my phone and calling me cruel, and saying he’s been busy with work that’s why he hasn’t returned the money. He’s saying that I’m horrible for treating him like a thief and there’s no way he wouldn’t have returned my money. A part of me feels really bad because we were so close before this, but at the same time I feel he was trying to take advantage of me.

So AITA?