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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/unpoeticjustice on 2023-09-18 18:35:54.
That is all I want. In my relationships and even just friendships, I have consistently been treated like a sex object, parentified, made to be an emotional scapegoat, and/or expected to be a maid. Everyone from my ex-husband to my sister to random customers at the bar I work at to acquaintances from the small town I live in… they have all shown through their actions that I don’t matter as a person worthy of respect to them. I am/was only in their life as a fixture, as something that contributed to their well-being, and was discarded the moment I set boundaries for myself or expressed any kind of needs of my own. It is so crazy to me the number of posts on here about young women being sexualized, recently divorced women reeling from being dehumanized by partners they thought wanted a life with them, and other examples of objectification and disrespect.
For now I’m just trying to focus on grounding myself, exercising, spending time with my dog, working… I can find my own value in myself, even when no one else seems to find me worthy of respect. But damn do I wish I felt as safe and secure navigating the world as a man who is used to at least being treated like a fully actualized human being by the world around him.