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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/LavenderButtercream on 2023-09-18 10:42:46.
I have a friend of 2 years who I met at my college in our class. He is friendly and we get along well so at times we walk around campus together to catch up. I noticed that during these times when we walked side by side, his hand would reach over and “accidentally” brush my backside.
I always brushed it off in my mind because he seemed like a good person who wouldn’t touch someone inappropriately without their person and we’re both trying to get into the healthcare field, so he should have strong morals and altruism right? In addition he refused to tell me his age but based on his life story he should be in his 30s at least; 10+ years older than me so I thought he couldn’t be interested in me that way.
More recently however I feel like he’s gotten bolder. When we walked up the stairs he “playfully” pushed me up the stairs by putting his hands on my butt. I was wearing a winter coat at the time but that couldn’t have been an accident. When he gave me a hug after winter break his hands went UNDER my backpack that I was wearing to cover my butt. On my birthday he took off my mask and tried to kiss me on the cheek.
Later I talked to a classmate who told me that he had touched other female classmates in the same way and one of them had even cried as a result. I can’t confirm the validity of this info but I have a feeling it could be true.
Since then he texted me a few times over the summer and again recently asking when I would be free to meet up on campus but I haven’t answered. The thing is that we have a class in common and will possibly see each other in a few weeks at an internship. So I have no idea if I should:
- Continue ghosting him and hope we don’t run into each other
- Answer his texts to be cordial, but dodge questions about when I will be on campus
Answering his text seems like the “right" thing to do, and in our program it’s good to stay in contact with classmates and mutually share info about classes, etc.
But at the same time I really really do not want to meet up with him again. I could bring up the inappropriate behavior with him but I feel like it shouldn’t be my responsibility to have that talk with a 30 year old man…
Redditors who have more experience with relationships, pleeeaaase share some of your insight with me :) 🙏
TLDR Friend (30M) has groped me on several occasions (21F) and I’m not sure how I could maintain a cordial relationship while keeping them at arm’s length (lol) or if I should try to ghost them. Please advise <3