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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/CoyoteFrank on 2023-09-18 00:16:55.
Tw: emotional, physical and sexual abuse.
I’m 28 now, but when I was 15/16 I dated a guy who was 20/21 years old for a few years. He was incredibly abusive to me. He dragged me into the church and I have a ton of religious trauma from that as well. We had sex, so there would be tons of instances of statutory rape. He pushed me around a few times but the worst was how manipulative, and emotionally abusive he was to me. Made me feel absolutely worthless and I eventually developed an eating disorder and began self harming. Isolated me from all my friends and family. Shamed me and made me feel like fucking trash. Thankfully I got out but it took me years to heal.
I just got a call from the Michigan state police office because he applied to be a state trooper. They’re doing background investigations on him. I’m fucking confused and terrified. I don’t live in Michigan anymore but my family does. I do not think he should be a cop. He was dangerous to me then but I’ve had no contact for years. But I also do not want to tell them what happened. What if they try to open a case? Or what if worst case scenario he retaliates against me if I say something and he doesn’t get the job because of me? He knows where my parents live.
I’m so confused. I wanted to leave this in the past and now I don’t know what to do.
EDIT: he didn’t put me down as a reference. The trooper who called said she is doing a background investigation on him and he put me down as someone he dated in the past.