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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/–poe- on 2023-09-17 18:32:34.
We have an 11 month old son. We had separated around 7 months ago, due to his drinking. I couldn’t have that around our newborn son, so I left.
He didn’t deal well with being a new father. he felt immense pressure to ‘be the provider’ as per his father, he also felt pressure to be ‘emotionally open’ as our generation. He has had problems with alcohol in the past, it was his go-to coping mechanism. He lost it, in this instance, entirely.
I left, for the safety of our son. He sank further into alcohol, weed, denial and shame. I wasn’t around anymore, to pull him into line. He died in a car accident after a night at the pub. He had been drinking all afternoon. He was the passenger. I’m waiting on the toxicology report for the driver. The car was significantly speeding. I had told him around 2 months ago - if he doesn’t pull himself into line and keeps doing stupid shit, he’ll end up dead. Law of averages. I’d like our young son to have a father.
And now, here we are. He may have been a ratbag, but he loved his son, so fiercely. Fuck him. He’s left us. I warned him.