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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/PraximasMaximus on 2023-09-17 14:59:32.
A friend (m) of mine for 4 years and I (f) are at am impass. Recently he asked me if it was acephobic to dislike “sex repulsed” people, that is people who do not want to be associated with sex. I said yes to this because of what I feel is obvious. This lead to a whole conversation where I stated that jacking off to someone you don’t know is comfortable with it is a violation of consent and hurts woman and young afabs in particular by teaching them from an early age that their body is to be enjoyed by others.
The example that was used is a classmate you’ve never talked too, who you think is attractive. I personally feel like gratifying yourself sexually to this person is objectifying and sexualizes (mostly) women for living in their own skin and puts the pressure on women to have to guard against being sexualized.
He said that I was a moralist spreading 1950’s Era sex negativity
I told him as a boundary I am nor comfortable to him jacking off to me and would need their word that they would not for me to feel comfortable in the friendship
He said I was parroting Christian moralists in progressive language, and thati was being deeply irrational. That I had anxiety driven controlling behavior
I just don’t want to be spank bank material
Is this normal? Am I just too ace? He said woman do it just ad much and this feels like it can’t be true
Thanks for reading! No TLDR I need thought out responses I feel like I’m losing my friend of 4 years and I’m scared that maybe I am irrational??? Idk