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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Alliken on 2023-09-17 11:06:25.

Trigger warning, before I begin. This post includes a description of my experience.

I recently got out of a long, horrible relationship. And in the middle of all my self doubt, struggling to trust myself after all the lies and manipulation, a formerly mutual friend told me his version of the story. It’s so goddamn ridiculous it might just have finally snapped me right out of it.

According to him, he had to get out of the relationship because I was going out of my way to constantly guilt him and make him feel like he wasn’t good enough, when I was upset or struggling I took it out on him and didn’t appreciate how hard he was trying to cheer me up.

You know how hard he tried to cheer me up? What his “best efforts” were? When I curled up in his arms in tears he would shove his hands under my clothes and say “I know something that will take your mind off things”.

The first few times I brushed him off and explained that no, no that very much was not going to help me feel better and I didn’t want him groping me while I was trying to come to him for support. And immediately he would sulk and complain about how he was only trying to help, why am I getting mad at him? Why do I always act like nothing he does is good enough?

He always pulled this when I was already distraught and knowing that saying no would only lead to being attacked on a different front, I eventually stopped fighting back. I would lay there, limp and still crying whole he had his way with me.

I would wait until I was in a better headspace to hold a conversation with him and explain that I did not like what he did and I did not want him to do it again. He’d get all sheepish and insist that he didn’t realise I wasn’t into it but fine, he won’t do it again.

And then wow shocker he’d do it again the next time I was upset over something!

And he has the absolute audacity to now be claiming I have been gaslighting him into thinking he did something wrong when he was “only trying to help”.

I think I’m actually finally done worrying that he might have been right all the times he told me how horrible I am, I finally have proof this guy is out of his mind.